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New Year's Eve Ritual & New Beginnings

I cannot believe that 2018 is almost over, it feels like I was just getting ready to go back to grad school and quit my real estate job to pursue an undetermined track of education. 2018 was filled with extreme lows and highs; it was a year of tough love and change. As 2018 comes to an end, I found myself reflecting on a few ideas and personal experiences.

Don't Set Yourself on Fire to Keep Others Warm
Stop focusing on everyone else in your life, and do what you need to be happy, successful (whatever that means to you), and content. Maybe it's trimming away the negative influences in your life; people who just aren't doing it for you. Or maybe it's purging old momentums that are no longer serving your new mindset or lifestyle. Moving forward means leaving the past behind. It's scary because you're leaving things you once knew so well, counted on, and became part of your identity, but it's also exciting because you now have space, both physically and mentally to start new beginnings and rituals. 

Saying Goodbye Doesn't Have to be Forever
People change, grow and drift apart and that's okay; we are human. Life has to move on, and sometimes the end isn't pretty or doesn't happen the way you thought it would but nevertheless, it is the end. In some cases, those people you said goodbye to may reappear back in your life. It's up to you whether you want to rekindle or reconnect with that person. Be confident in your choice, but keep your own health in mind.

It's tough to start over but it's also the opportunity for new adventures and experiences. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and sometimes those reasons are shitty and suck but we have to take them, deal with them, and then move away from them. It took me all year to really get the gist of this, but I am learning to let go of past emotions and buried feelings. In the bigger picture, they do not matter and at the end of the day, all we have are the people around us and ourselves. I believe it's more important to foster those relationships than to hold onto past differences. 

Welcome the New
2019 is the year of the Pig (if you follow Chinese Astrology) a year of joy and friendship with all the zodiac signs. The Pig also attracts success in all spheres of life; take this opportunity to try something new and maybe even by yourself. Take a class, volunteer, set achievable and realistic small goals that you can handle and manage. I don't believe in resolutions but more of a mindset on how you want to embrace the new year. Don't forget to reflect on 2018 and what you are grateful for; I am grateful for laughter and being alive.

Ritual of Release
As 2018 comes to an end, I look forward to welcoming 2019 with a cleansing ritual adapted from Wonderworks; here is a ritual for letting go of what no longer serves you.

When we are looking towards creating a fulfilled life, we must often release stagnant energy or situations that have built up within our energetic fields. By cleansing the old, we are creating a sacred and beautiful space to invite the new.

Do you have any rituals to welcome the new year? Let me know in the comments! 

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